Reaching for a Higher Perspective
To say we are fighting with our loved ones over politics in 20/20 would be an understatement. We are not just fighting over politics, we are challenging each other’s world views.
We are in a constant state of fight or flight, from one minute to the next we are trying to cope with one major world event after another. And, just when we think we are starting to feel better, we get hit with something else. In order to navigate all of the changes, pain, sadness, and tragedies, we have to come together, but how? When so many people around us are seeing the world through a completely different set of lenses?
As hard as it may be the first step to building a bridge with your loved ones is to recognize that no amount of arguing will change how they view the world. The second step is to understand that everyone around you—including those you think are like minded—are viewing the world in their own unique way.
This world viewpoint is comprised of individual beliefs, experiences, learned behavior, and subconscious programming. Your subconscious mind has a filtering system, and although, there are thousands of bits of information available to you at any given time, you are only receiving and processing the information that reinforces what you already believe.
The more open-minded you are, the easier it is for you to experience another person’s perspective, the more fixed your mindset is, the harder it is for you to see a perspective outside of your own. Even if we can see a perspective other than our own, we are living in a time of heightened fear energy that will cause anything that challenges our core values to feel like a threat, instead of simply a difference in opinion.
Why is our world view being challenged?
We are being bombarded with information. Have you noticed when sharing your viewpoint with someone that disagrees with you, the first thing they say is: “you need to educate yourself, look it up, and you will see the truth.” But the truth of the matter is that whatever they believe to be true, they will find proof of and the same is true for you.
So, what is true, and what is not true? This is where your inner compass comes into play. We need to stop looking outside of ourselves for reinforcement of the beliefs that we already hold, and we need to look within. Every great philosopher knows this to be true: in times of great conflict comes great change.
With this in mind, it is important to understand that we have entered into a time of great change. It does not matter what others believe to be true or not to be true, that is their journey to uncover.
From a spiritual perspective, and as a collective, we have come to a fork in the road, a time in which we can no longer continue on the same path. A time when whatever path we choose must be one that takes into consideration the greater good of all. The greater good of all is the path of wanting for others what we want for ourselves. It is the path of choosing love over war and cooperation over control. This is where our point of power is to love others regardless of their beliefs. The more of us that can hold this energy, the more we will see a shift. Before the shift can happen, we must put down the tug-of-war rope and start to forgive.
“A power struggle happens when two people or a group of people are fighting against each other instead of working together. Each person has their own agenda or opinion in the situation, and they may not be willing to see each other as equals. In reality, no person is superior to another, regardless of their position; each person has an equal right to have their needs met.
Seek to understand the other person’s point of view, and let go of the need to be right—there are always two sides to every story. When we get caught up in our own story, it can be difficult to see the other side. Take a step back, breathe, and be willing to look at this from a space of love. If the other person still refuses to take into consideration your needs or the needs of the group, it does not mean that you have to let go of what is in your best interest or in the best interest of the group as a whole; you can always agree to disagree, but then move on.
Whatever happens, refuse to contribute your energy to this power struggle any longer. Continuing as you have been is a waste of your precious time and energy. Pull out of this energetically toxic situation, then neutralize it with a refusal to give it any more of your attention, at least for now.”
—Excerpt from the Intuitive Life Coaching Oracle guidebook
To forgive or not to forgive
With forgiveness, not only are we setting others free, free from our expectations of who we wish they could be, we are also setting ourselves free. Although, there are many different levels of forgiveness, forgiveness is a healing process that will dissolve any and all resentment, anger, and pain that continues to plague your mind, body, and spirit. Through forgiveness, even physical pain and alignments have been known to dissipate into nothingness. You are no longer bound out of pain, anger, or sadness. Whether you choose to have a relationship with those you forgive is something completely different. This is a personal decision based on your ability to navigate the relationship in a way that does not compromise your health, safety, personal boundaries, core values, or freedom of self-expression.
“There is a time for healing and there is a time for boldly re-emerging out into the world, with a new spring in your step. This card comes to you today to encourage you to do the necessary inner work toward transformation. You are getting ready to turn the pages in your story to enter into a new chapter in your life.
Things happen that cause us to put up walls, to close up, and to hide from the world in order to keep from getting hurt. The way to heal this is not through the avoidance of new experiences, opportunities, or people that come into your life—that only keeps the pain of the past alive. The way to truly heal the pain and suffering of the past is through the forgiveness of yourself and others.
Learn from your past and step into your present! Take all the lessons from painful past experiences, and use this knowledge to create a better life for yourself. Forgive all of those involved, including yourself; and trust that only the experiences, opportunities, and people that are for your highest good will enter your life now.
Take down your walls! Go boldly into the world to shine your radiant, one-of-a-kind light! Open your heart and let love in!”
— Excerpt from the Intuitive Life Coaching Oracle guidebook
About the author
Kelly T. Smith is a mind, body, and wellness practitioner with a certification in life coaching and hypnotherapy. She has been trained in a variety of holistic healing modalities as well, such as neurolinguistic programming, holistic nutrition, past life regression therapy, homeopathic remedies, essential oils, psychology of intuition, energy healing, and many others. Her mission in life is to help you realize your fullest potential, find your hidden gifts, and break free from limiting beliefs that keep your true self hidden.
Her latest card deck Intuitive Life Coaching Oracle releases November 17 from Beyond Words Publishing. The deck is also available through Indie Goes as an app. For more about Kelly T. and her work, visit: https://www.intuitivelifecoachingwithkelly.com/.
