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How to Make Sure You Have a Good Day By Using Positive Affirmations

How do you usually start your day? What are the first thoughts that come to mind as you get out of bed?

For me, it’s usually “I need to make coffee or else I won’t be able to function.” Throughout the day, I find myself thinking in a similar pattern.

I won’t be able to go through this day with drinking a can of Monster.
I cannot finish this post without going out for a some chai tea latte.
There’s so much to do that I don’t know where to start. I’ll be overwhelmed with work.
With so much going on, I’ll probably be depressed by bedtime and have trouble sleeping again.

Do you see how this way of thinking can make your day worse than it has to be?

Your mindset, especially in the morning, can determine how things progress throughout the day. As such, mastering your mindset is essential for you to have a good day. [Read more…] about How to Make Sure You Have a Good Day By Using Positive Affirmations

Originally posted on December 3, 2014 @ 8:30 am

10 Things to Do Before You Unleash Your Anger to the World

Life, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Personal Growth

Anger is a very dangerous thing. When you’re angry, you make the whole world know about it through actions. By expressing your anger, you are able to act upon this negative emotion, thus ridding yourself from bad feelings in the process.

On the downside, the consequences of your actions while you’re angry may cause irreparable damage to yourself and your relationship with others.

It is so easy to do something rash and illogical when you’re angry because you may use it as an excuse to explain your actions, allowing you to recompense people you have done wrong. However, anger is never an excuse. You have the ability to manage and defuse your anger. Instead, you decided to act upon it without thinking of the harm you’re doing. By the time you realize this, it might be too late to ask for forgiveness and make amends.

Therefore, before letting anger take hold of you, restrain yourself from doing anything until you’ve done the following first:

1. Get out from the place that’s making you angry

If you’re with company or in an environment that triggered your anger, find a way to excuse yourself politely from the situation and retreat to a place where you can find comfort and peace of mind.

2. Calm yourself down

Focusing on taking deep breaths work best to help you compose yourself. Another method to soothe yourself is to count from one to 10 and back. If you want to do other ways on to get your act together, read “Angry? Tips to Calm Down on the Spot.”

3. Identify the source of anger

Trace back to the events that led to you getting angry. Rationalize how these instances made you angry. From here, you can also determine if your anger has been misplaced because you simply misunderstood something.

4. Come up with a solution

Once you have determined the cause of your anger, it’s time to find a reasonable way of acting upon it. Putting your thinking caps on during these times places back logic in the driver’s seat and your emotions in the back burner. This way, it allows you to clear your head and make rational decisions from this point on.

5. Talk to someone

If you can’t find a solution to your anger, find someone that you trust and talk your feelings and thoughts over with them. Since they have a much better perspective of the entire situation – once you’ve walked them through it – they can provide you with more actionable ways of addressing your situation.

6. Create a platform to discuss your anger

Confront the issue that is causing you to be angry. If it’s a person, find a way to create dialogue and talk about how he or she has done you wrong. If it’s an event, articulate your emotions in your journal or blog.

7. Make your anger exclusive to yourself

When talking to someone who has caused your anger, address your negative emotions by starting every sentence with, “I feel…” This way, you don’t make the person feel like you’re attacking them.

8. Keep cool!

It is possible that dealing with the situation head on can fuel your anger even more, especially if the situation escalates. If you feel you are on the verge of losing it, don’t. If necessary, repeat the first tip of this list and start all over again.

9. Forgive

Once your anger issues have been resolved, find in your heart to not only forgive the cause of your anger, but also yourself for almost letting your emotion get the best of you.

10. Be happy!

Move on from anger and onto greater things. Focus on your dreams and aspirations, as well as doing the things you love for the people you care about. More important, keep a positive disposition at all times so you can move on from your anger much easier.

Once you’ve done everything above, you can guarantee that your anger has dissipated and the only thing you’ll unleash is goodwill and great joy to all!

Originally posted on November 24, 2014 @ 7:00 am

15 Quotes to Boost Your Confidence

Inspiration

In the previous post, we talked about how to boost your confidence by taking a look at your behaviors, and if some of them were toxic. By letting go of those toxic behaviors, your confidence will only benefit from it.

To continue along those lines and give you even more inspiration, let’s look at some of the best quotes to boost your confidence. I’m not saying that merely reading the quotes will immediately boost your confidence and make it last forever. However, if you do come back to them from time to time, especially the ones that resonate with you, then you can gain that boost when you really need it. [Read more…] about 15 Quotes to Boost Your Confidence

Originally posted on November 7, 2014 @ 7:00 am

Boost Your Confidence by Letting Go of These Toxic Behaviors

Inspiration

There are some people who just ooze confidence that you can’t help but wonder how they do it. Were they born confident, or were they raised in a specific way? Have you ever thought that, perhaps, they taught themselves to be confident; that they made changes in their lives to become the confident people they are today?

If you are struggling with self-confidence, and you need a boost, maybe you are allowing some toxic behaviors to control you. Maybe you need to let go of these behaviors, and when you do, your confidence will get a massive boost! [Read more…] about Boost Your Confidence by Letting Go of These Toxic Behaviors

Originally posted on October 28, 2014 @ 8:00 am

When Relationships End…Badly

Healing, Life, Relationships, Spirit

When people enter a relationship, they don’t think about it ending. When everything seems right (at that time), partners may even think about spending the rest of their lives together.

The reality, however, is that not all relationships have happy endings; and relationships can be hard. In a previous post, Why Are Relationships So Hard?, Luciana shared a quote:

“In order to have a satisfying love relationship, both partners need to draw their energy back into the relationship. It is very difficult to identify what is wrong with a relationship if the participants keep themselves distant and distracted. Even more important, two intimate partners cannot reconnect with each other until they are physically and emotionally available.” – Harvelle Hendrix, Getting The Love You Want

This is probably the key to a successful relationship, but what if your relationship is one of those that end…badly? [Read more…] about When Relationships End…Badly

Originally posted on October 16, 2014 @ 8:33 am

Determine If You’re Lacking Self-Compassion, and Learn How to Develop It

Inspiration, Personal Growth, Spirit

Day in and day out, we are hammered by expectations, judgements, and obligations. As can be expected, we sometimes make mistakes. We fail. And during those times, we beat ourselves up – some more than others.

If you find yourself beating yourself up for whatever mistake you’ve made, maybe you should ask yourself this question: “Do I lack self-compassion?” [Read more…] about Determine If You’re Lacking Self-Compassion, and Learn How to Develop It

Originally posted on October 7, 2014 @ 9:00 am