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How to Calm Your Mind in the Midst of Conflict

Some people thrive in the middle of conflict and are able to keep a rational mind in spite of heightened negative senses. Others totally lose it.

As for me, I avoid conflict as much as I can. I am unconfrontational, which can be bad in the sense that, when I find myself in the middle of an argument, I can surprise myself with the seemingly uncontrollable fury I feel.

I’m sure I am not alone in this and that it is something that we should address. Otherwise, in our anger, we might do and/or say things we will regret.

Fortunately, all is not lost. In spite of how intense anger can be, we still regain control. In this post, we will take a look at how to calm your mind in the middle of a confrontation. It sounds difficult – impossible even – but it can be done. [Read more…] about How to Calm Your Mind in the Midst of Conflict

Originally posted on March 15, 2016 @ 8:00 am

7 Quotes About Anger

Being angry is a normal thing – it happens to all of us. However, we also know that it is a dangerous emotion. Left uncontrolled, anger can ruin you – and the people around you.

Lately, I’ve been having this feeling of anger stirring beneath the surface. I have no idea why, but it feels like it’s just waiting to get out. It’s scary, but I believe it’s nothing that can’t be dealt with properly. Part of what I have been doing is reading, doing yoga (more than usual), and consciously breathing to calm down.

10 Things to Do Before You Unleash Your Anger to the World

I’ve also written down some quick quotes that serve as reminders to keep me in check.

Here are some of those. I hope they help you, too.

Quotes About Anger

1. Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. – Buddha

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2. Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. – Ambrose Bierce

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3. Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. – Mark Twain

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4. A man can’t eat anger for breakfast and sleep with it at night and not suffer damage to his soul. – Garrison Keillor

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5. Never forget what a man says to you when he is angry. – Henry Ward Beecher

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6. There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot. – Plato

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7. When anger rises, think of the consequences. – Confucius

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What do you do when you feel angry? Do reading and leaving notes/quotes for yourself as reminders help?

Originally posted on November 4, 2015 @ 8:30 am

10 Things to Do Before You Unleash Your Anger to the World

 

Anger is a very dangerous thing. When you’re angry, you make the whole world know about it through actions. By expressing your anger, you are able to act upon this negative emotion, thus ridding yourself from bad feelings in the process.

On the downside, the consequences of your actions while you’re angry may cause irreparable damage to yourself and your relationship with others.

It is so easy to do something rash and illogical when you’re angry because you may use it as an excuse to explain your actions, allowing you to recompense people you have done wrong. However, anger is never an excuse. You have the ability to manage and defuse your anger. Instead, you decided to act upon it without thinking of the harm you’re doing. By the time you realize this, it might be too late to ask for forgiveness and make amends.

Therefore, before letting anger take hold of you, restrain yourself from doing anything until you’ve done the following first:

1. Get out from the place that’s making you angry

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If you’re with company or in an environment that triggered your anger, find a way to excuse yourself politely from the situation and retreat to a place where you can find comfort and peace of mind.

2. Calm yourself down

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Focusing on taking deep breaths work best to help you compose yourself. Another method to soothe yourself is to count from one to 10 and back. If you want to do other ways on to get your act together, read “Angry? Tips to Calm Down on the Spot.”

3. Identify the source of anger

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Trace back to the events that led to you getting angry. Rationalize how these instances made you angry. From here, you can also determine if your anger has been misplaced because you simply misunderstood something.

4. Come up with a solution

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Once you have determined the cause of your anger, it’s time to find a reasonable way of acting upon it. Putting your thinking caps on during these times places back logic in the driver’s seat and your emotions in the back burner. This way, it allows you to clear your head and make rational decisions from this point on.

5. Talk to someone

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If you can’t find a solution to your anger, find someone that you trust and talk your feelings and thoughts over with them. Since they have a much better perspective of the entire situation – once you’ve walked them through it – they can provide you with more actionable ways of addressing your situation.

6. Create a platform to discuss your anger

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Confront the issue that is causing you to be angry. If it’s a person, find a way to create dialogue and talk about how he or she has done you wrong. If it’s an event, articulate your emotions in your journal or blog.

7. Make your anger exclusive to yourself

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When talking to someone who has caused your anger, address your negative emotions by starting every sentence with, “I feel…” This way, you don’t make the person feel like you’re attacking them.

8. Keep cool!

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It is possible that dealing with the situation head on can fuel your anger even more, especially if the situation escalates. If you feel you are on the verge of losing it, don’t. If necessary, repeat the first tip of this list and start all over again.

9. Forgive

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Once your anger issues have been resolved, find in your heart to not only forgive the cause of your anger, but also yourself for almost letting your emotion get the best of you.

10. Be happy!

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Move on from anger and onto greater things. Focus on your dreams and aspirations, as well as doing the things you love for the people you care about. More important, keep a positive disposition at all times so you can move on from your anger much easier.

Once you’ve done everything above, you can guarantee that your anger has dissipated and the only thing you’ll unleash is goodwill and great joy to all!

Originally posted on November 24, 2014 @ 7:00 am

5 Incorrect Assumptions You Make When You’re Angry

I don’t know if you’re aware of it, but anger is a serious issue in our society today. Teens and adults alike suffer from anger management problems. Back in 2012 alone, a study found that 6 million teens in the US were affected with intermittent explosive disorder. Imagine if those teens didn’t get help! How would their lives be as adults?

The average person gets angry from time to time. That’s normal. It’s the frequency, the nature of the reaction, and how the person thinks when angry that makes the difference between “normal” anger and anger problems. [Read more…] about 5 Incorrect Assumptions You Make When You’re Angry

Originally posted on August 26, 2014 @ 9:37 am

Why It’s Important to Control Your Anger – and Practical Tips to Do It

Anger is a normal emotion, and letting it out is actually healthy. The “normal” person lets his anger show when appropriate, but does not let it control him, or let things get out of hand.

There are some people, however, who just can’t seem to get a grip on themselves when the monster that is anger rears its ugly head. Some go on a verbal tirade. Others go on a physical rampage. Yet others simply keep quiet and keep it all in – until they explode.

Whichever group you feel you belong to, if you have been experiencing issues with anger, I believe that this article is for you.

Again, anger is normal, but it has to be controlled, so why don’t we first look at real reasons why you should control your anger? [Read more…] about Why It’s Important to Control Your Anger – and Practical Tips to Do It

Originally posted on June 17, 2014 @ 9:30 am