Relationships can be complicated and when family members are involved, it becomes even more complex when it comes to marriages. When planning to pop the question, most men will approach their partner’s parents to ask them for their daughter’s hand in marriage. But what would happen if the parents refuse? Is it still advisable to go on with the wedding without the parent’s blessing? In this post, we will explore the importance of the parents’ blessing when it comes to marriage.
Don’t blow it off
You may approach your parents to bless your union before you choose to walk down the aisle. Sometimes your parents may not think that your partner is the best person for you. It’s important to try and understand where your parents are coming from. It’s really important to get your parents blessings but not absolute. You have to sit them down and really be able to talk to them. Listen to them as well.
Give whatever they say a lot of time to just think it through. You can also involve other people in trying to help you understand where your parents are coming from. Walking down the aisle without your parents approving of it can be one of the toughest things to do. So this is one of the things that you should think about. It’s always better to celebrate your special day with your family and friends in the perfect wedding venue of your choice.
Talk to your parents
Parents may refuse to bless a marriage because of many reasons. For a start, it could be that the parents do not approve of your partner’s character. Other times, parents think that the timing for the marriage is wrong. Sometimes parents miss it or misread someone. It could be that your parents don’t even know what that person is like. So be patient and give them time also to see where you are coming from.
One thing you can do is to try and give your parents an opportunity to get to know your future spouse better. Whether this means going for dinner at your parent’s home or attending family functions, it is important for the partner to spend time with their in-laws before walking down the aisle. Give them time to get to know your future bride or groom as well as the person you have become when you are with your partner. Your parents may find something new about you and you want them to get to know that part of you as well.
Opening a new chapter
Marriage brings together two families. You need to remind your parents that they will be part of a greater family and begin a new chapter in their lives. Marriages can be rocky and having parents who are not supportive can put more strain in the relationship. Consider discussing issues with your parents and coming to a resolution.
If you are not able to keep your parents on the same page, you may want to consider professional help. A therapist can help you to uncover issues that you hadn’t thought of before. Invite your parents too so that they can see things from a completely different perspective. It is important to have a marriage when everyone you love is on your side.
Also read “10 Quotes for a Healthy Relationship“
Maggie Martin is an avid traveler. She loves learning about new things such as the best location for photo shoots, wedding receptions, and where to have the best parties. When she is not traveling, she loves to write about the places she has been and share them with everyone. Follow her on Twitter @maggiemartink.
‘It is important to have a marriage when everyone you love is on your side.’
‘If you are not with me, you are against me?’
Perhaps, just maybe, the problem or lack of understanding, is with the ‘you.’