We’ve all been fed this dream of having a magnificent wedding. A glorious event where the bride is wearing a big, beautiful white dress as she walks down an aisle of rose petals while hundreds of people watch her marry the love of her life, then the couple lives happily ever after.
Your entire marriage is set off by this extravagant event and everyone is watching to make sure that you get it right, and it’s stressful.
This article is here to remind you that the perfect wedding doesn’t exist. Your dream wedding can be whatever you want it to be.
Setting aside traditions and superstitions, here are four myths that are keeping you from the wedding of your dreams.
Weddings Are Expensive
While it is true that the average cost of a wedding is $33,931, there is no reason for you to believe you need to spend that much. People have it in their minds that a more expensive wedding automatically means that it’s more luxurious. They think that they have to prove the intensity of their love by spending thousands of dollars on dresses, decorations, and venues.
That’s simply not true. Your love is priceless, and you don’t need to spend a bunch of money to validate it. There’s no shame in getting married in your back yard to save a few bucks, and there’s no harm in reducing the guest list so that you don’t have to pay for food for a bunch of people.
There’s also no harm in eloping to skip the wedding bill altogether. The most important thing is that you’re marrying the person that you love. The price at which that happens shouldn’t matter at all.
There are plenty of wedding themes that lend themselves to couples on a smaller budget if you’ve always dreamed of having a bigger wedding. Rustic, vintage, bohemian, and DIY themes all have elements that are on the cheaper side of things.
Find a place that sells affordable wedding supplies to help you create the wedding you’ve been envisioning. Also, don’t be afraid to ask friends and family to contribute their services. If you have a cousin who is a photographer or a best friend who is a makeup artist who is offering discount prices, take them up on it. Don’t by into the myth that you have to sacrifice quality for a lower price point.
You Have to Look Your Absolute Best
It’s completely natural for you to want to look the best you can for your wedding day. But the root of this want can sometimes be misguided. People are often on a mission to impress their guests on their wedding day. They want to spend thousands of dollars on their outfits just so they can show off their perfect wedding photos and brag about how good they looked. This shouldn’t be the case.
The only person you should be trying to look good for is yourself. So while, yes, this is the perfect opportunity to have a mini fashion show and walk down the aisle with all eyes on you, remember that the only people whose opinions matter that day are you and your spouse. It shouldn’t matter to them if you’ve looked better on other days.
It’s still okay to strive for perfection if that’s what you want. Just remember there’s no need to spend hundreds of dollars on hair, makeup, and grooming products when you can achieve the same look using drugstore products.
Brides can choose trusted brands, like CoverGirl, that are known for their full coverage and long-lasting formulas, and still be the prettiest one in the room. Grooms can rely on affordable shaving products, like these from Harry’s, that are soothing to the skin, to help be ready for those wedding photos.
You don’t have to spend hundreds of dollars to look good at your wedding. Stick with trusted household names and you’ll be good to go!
You Shouldn’t Have Cold Feet
It’s completely natural to feel like you’re getting cold feet before your wedding. After all, it is a big deal! There are plenty of challenges that come with being married and it makes sense for anyone to get butterflies. You’re committing yourself to one person for the rest of your life!
If you start having cold feet as your wedding day approaches, that just means that you’re asking yourself the right questions before getting married. The key is to remain honest to yourself and openly communicate with your future spouse leading up to the big day.
You’re committing yourself to one person for the rest of your life! If you start having cold feet as your wedding day approaches, that just means that you’re asking yourself the right questions before getting married. The key is to remain honest to yourself and openly communicate with your future spouse leading up to the big day.
Just because you’re a little nervous doesn’t mean you’re second-guessing anything. You know the person you’re marrying. You’ve seen them on their best days and you’ve seen them on their worst. You know you can’t live without them. You know you’ve found the one! Don’t get caught up in the myth that you should have known from the start, all good things take time.
This will be the happiest day of your life
Your wedding day should definitely be on your list of favorite moments, but it doesn’t have to be number one. Your wedding will be beautiful, even if it’s not flawless. Mishaps are possible with events this size. The key is to take them as they come, enjoy what you got right, and try to find humor in the things that go wrong. If another life event happens to top this one, that’s great!
As long as you can look back on your life with no regrets, then that’s all that really matters.
There are plenty of other happy days to look forward to in life. Like bringing home a new puppy for the first time, or landing that big promotion you’ve wanted, or watching your kids go to college. There will be other days to look forward to, so don’t buy into the myth that this is your one chance for a perfect evening.
Remember, this is your day. You don’t have to worry about trying to mold it into what others think it’s supposed to be like. Ridding your thoughts of these wedding myths will free your mind to think about the new life you’re about to enter into with your spouse.