Comments on: Office Arguments: Is Your Viewpoint Making Things Worse? http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 18:14:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: The Daily Minder http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-766 The Daily Minder Sun, 08 Jun 2008 08:21:13 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-766 SA - Good tip on the emotional arguments. I think that we all should follow that advice. TDM SA - Good tip on the emotional arguments. I think that we all should follow that advice.

TDM

]]> By: SA http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-764 SA Sat, 07 Jun 2008 05:03:52 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-764 I agree with JB By the way, daily mind i am new reader to your blog & I enjoy topics of interest as always...keep it up! Re: Arguments--I usually avoid arguments that are emotionally inclined i.e. if I find myself more emotional than rational then I drop the matter and let it go. Also, I pick up arguments that I feel others or individuals have suffered. For instance, if the system in place has failed to acknowledge the event or incident then I may pick up the argument wanting a change. But of course, I make sure the evidence is sound. This again follows being in the other people's shoes when they are oppressed. Sometimes I end up being labelled but as long as I speak about my own experiences or others then I have made my point. Lastly, I have one principle in life about arguments involving people, I avoid at all costs to talk or listen in length about other people for more than 5 minutes be it good or bad news! I consider myself as an important being in this universe in creating harmonious energy and not a meddler of other people's affairs ;-) I agree with JB
By the way, daily mind i am new reader to your blog & I enjoy topics of interest as always…keep it up!

Re: Arguments–I usually avoid arguments that are emotionally inclined i.e. if I find myself more emotional than rational then I drop the matter and let it go. Also, I pick up arguments that I feel others or individuals have suffered. For instance, if the system in place has failed to acknowledge the event or incident then I may pick up the argument wanting a change. But of course, I make sure the evidence is sound. This again follows being in the other people’s shoes when they are oppressed. Sometimes I end up being labelled but as long as I speak about my own experiences or others then I have made my point. Lastly, I have one principle in life about arguments involving people, I avoid at all costs to talk or listen in length about other people for more than 5 minutes be it good or bad news! I consider myself as an important being in this universe in creating harmonious energy and not a meddler of other people’s affairs ;-)

]]> By: JB http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-761 JB Fri, 06 Jun 2008 07:37:00 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-761 People have a lot of anxiety. The are worried about not being successful, of what people think, of what it will mean if they do not fall into line on the corporate merry-go-round. Should be more like corporate stress-go-round. The thing that I think is sad is the people that actually win at the corporate game, and ascend to the dizzy heights of upper management (said with tongue in cheek). How often do they consider the other people in the process with affection and generosity? And how much of their humanity is still intact by the time they get there? It seems like the corporate animal is set to devour the creative identity (and spirit) of every bright mind that is thrown to the wolves, or is the the sharks.. I am trying to forget ;). People have a lot of anxiety. The are worried about not being successful, of what people think, of what it will mean if they do not fall into line on the corporate merry-go-round. Should be more like corporate stress-go-round. The thing that I think is sad is the people that actually win at the corporate game, and ascend to the dizzy heights of upper management (said with tongue in cheek). How often do they consider the other people in the process with affection and generosity? And how much of their humanity is still intact by the time they get there? It seems like the corporate animal is set to devour the creative identity (and spirit) of every bright mind that is thrown to the wolves, or is the the sharks.. I am trying to forget ;).

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-760 The Daily Minder Fri, 06 Jun 2008 07:23:21 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-760 JB you are so right - it is about balance and not being too attached to your position. It is sad that the "game" gets in the way of doing the right thing - people not being themselves because they think it will get in the way of their career. TDM JB you are so right - it is about balance and not being too attached to your position. It is sad that the “game” gets in the way of doing the right thing - people not being themselves because they think it will get in the way of their career.

TDM

]]> By: JB http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-759 JB Fri, 06 Jun 2008 07:04:15 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/stress/office-arguments-is-your-viewpoint-making-things-worse/#comment-759 Hey Daily Minder, Great post as usual. One of the things that I was taught by a mentor at my first corporate gig was never disagree with anyone. But, know when to take a stand. Office politics is surely one of the most stressful aspects of any job. And, if you just agree all the time you are seen as weak. But, if you disagree too often you are seen as a trouble maker. Knowing when to agree and disagree, is part of the art of corporate success. But, if you can rise above the "game" and be unattached to your argument, whether it supports or opposes the current mood of the office, you will be exponentially more effective than the next person. Hey Daily Minder,
Great post as usual.
One of the things that I was taught by a mentor at my first corporate gig was never disagree with anyone. But, know when to take a stand.
Office politics is surely one of the most stressful aspects of any job. And, if you just agree all the time you are seen as weak. But, if you disagree too often you are seen as a trouble maker. Knowing when to agree and disagree, is part of the art of corporate success.
But, if you can rise above the “game” and be unattached to your argument, whether it supports or opposes the current mood of the office, you will be exponentially more effective than the next person.

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