Thanks for the nice advice. This post made my day and I’m really liking your blog and your work. Your responses and participation here really impressed me and got the conversation going very well.

Just want to share a video that has a lot to do with the “neurosys” subject you wrote on the post. It’s a 1h speech a buddhist monk gave on Google Tech Talks last week. The title is: Be Your Own Therapist.
http://br.youtube.com/watch?v=nasIq4E9nNg

Thanks once again, TDM!

Cheers!

Brilliant!

I am less fearful and less stressed since picking up that practice some years ago. Its not for any lack of stressful impulses, or fearful cues, its more that I’ve learned to recognize them when they begin to sprout, and I tag them for what they are. Essentially turning on the lights and seeing the sheet, rather than imagining the ghost. So the impulses are still there but the way I handle them are different.

This attitude can cause relationship conflict though. I’ve often been less “emotional” than my family who I think are very dramatic people. Its not that I don’t feel emotion or enjoy it, but when it comes to negative emotion, or crisis type situations, I’m very able to detach my emotional state for what it is and go into the “boardroom”. Later when I can allow it, I’ll then be emotional. This can be upsetting to people though, who seem to need you to be in their world of emotion with them, and I’ve sometimes wondered if there were something “wrong” with me because of it.

So emotions for me, particularly negative ones are sort of like a vehicle that I can choose to drive or not drive, its up to me. When my mother was in a really bad motorcycle accident and her husband was killed, and she was very hurt, I immediately went into “boardroom” mode. I became the focal point for the family, worked through the problems and got things moving in a productive way, like keeping my mom from losing her house because she can’t pay her bills for example. It wasn’t until later after I put things in order that I “allowed” myself to grieve, and boy did I ever. But once the crying was done, it was done, I didn’t revisit it over and over. I had enough of driving that particular vehicle

Sorry to go long winded on you, your writings have helped me to be more “musing” lately, and writing it down helps me to organize what I think. Thanks very much for what you do.

~Mickey

It’s interesting what you say about fear being a useful tool. I think it is definitely there for survival reasons but we have taken it too far. Do you feel you have become more or less fearful since doing this practice? Is the amount of fear you have different or just your ability to cope with it?

I really like that mantra. Thank you so much for sharing.

Hope to see you around the blog again.

TDM

I get the feeling you know more about this then you are letting on!

I think the best mode of being is simply not to get caught up in the labeling part too much. Let the sense organs and the objects interact but leave it at that. View everything as a dream.

Remember, we are so habituated to doing these things that we don’t consciously choose to create a “me”. It is long established.

Awesome comments Nando I’ve really enjoyed them! Hope to see you around again.

TDM