How to Talk to the Hot Girl or Guy at Work…Properly

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How to talk to the hot girl at work
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There is always a girl (or guy) at work that we fall in lust with. We fantasize about them all day and often all night long. However, when the opportunity to speak to them arises we freeze and act like a right fool.

Not any more.

How NOT to talk to the hot girl at work

First of all we have to look at what NOT to do when trying to chat to the hot girl at work. Take careful note. If you are doing any of these things you will probably not succeed in getting a phone number.

1. Do not pretend you are cool
Cool people do not act cool. They just are cool. If you try to be cooler than you are it will look fake and you will look like you are trying to hard. Most of my friends fall into this trap when they are trying to pick up. They think girls like cool guys. They probably do. What they don’t like, however, is uncool guys trying to be cool.

2. Do not fake interest
Many online “love” advice sites will tell you to fake being interested in something she cares about. Don’t. She will see right through it. Women are very intelligent and perceptive human beings. Don’t fake anything.

3. Do not change who you are
If you start talking about sport and she says “Oh I hate sport” do not change your tune. Girls love it when men are independent and passionate about something. Do not be afraid to disagree with her and tell her how awesome sport is. She will appreciate the honesty and the confidence.

How to talk to the hot girl at work

Now that we have looked at some of the no no’s we can start to look at some of the things you should do. Be careful though, if you misunderstand these points you will look very unnatural and fake. Make sure you are always being natural.

1. Be confident
Do not hesitate in your approach or your opening greeting. Girls love confident men who are able to hold their own space and think for themselves. I have noticed that men who use lame pick up lines seem to succeed if they are said with confidence. A simple compliment about the way her hair looks (although cheesy) can work wonders if said properly. But remember, don’t say it if you don’t mean it!

2. Be natural
If you start to fake who you are the girl (or guy) will see through it. You should always be yourself. People love other people who go about their own lives in a natural and passionate way. If you notice yourself starting to go back on your moral, ethics or standards because you are trying to impress someone then you need to stop.

3. Be humble
No one likes a person who rattles on about themselves. Nobody cares man! I am shocked at how often my mates talk about themselves to women they are trying to hit on. They look like idiots. Try and find a balance between humility and confidence. You offer so much more to a conversation.

4. Add your thoughts
If she (or he) makes a comment about the weather or work or whatever you should add something to that comment. Don’t just agree with them; add something to the conversation to make it interesting. Injecting your own thoughts and opinions into a conversation can take it from small talk to a full blown chat. This is what you want.

5. Relax!
One of the biggest problems of all is nerves. People approach a beautiful woman like she is a goddess from some other realm that cannot be approached by anyone except Brad Pitt. Wrong. A woman is someone’s daughter, sister, mother. They are ordinary human beings with feelings, emotions and worries. If you relax you will be able to relate so much better. You will be able to pick up on her signals. If you are nervous, she will be nervous. If you are relaxed, she will be relaxed.

6. Try again
If you made a complete idiot of yourself the first time you talked to her you should not give up. Resign yourself to the fact that you cannot do any worse than you have already and go in and make a joke:

“Hey. Remember me… I made a fool of myself last time I was trying to get your number.”

She will find it funny, honest and probably laugh. It is a good conversation starter. Do not be ashamed of who you are or what you do in high pressure situations. Just keep trying.

7. Use humor… occasionally
A joke or two is good if the other person finds them funny. Bad jokes told with poor timinng create awkward silences. Nobody wants these. Make sure your jokes are simple and aren’t at the expense of anyone else. No one likes to see the other person in the room get uncomfortable. Don’t overdo on the humor.

8. Don’t ask her out after one conversation
“Hey I’ve seen you around can I have your number” is never going to work. Play a little. Talk to her and then leave as if you are in a hurry. This will show that you aren’t DESPERATE to talk to her. After you have built up a little report and a few “inside jokes” you can ask her out for coffee.

9. Pick your moments
Do not go up and try to crack a joke when she has just tripped over or been yelled at by the boss. She has other things on her mind. Make sure you pick good moments where the vibe is loose, relaxed and not too formal.

Conclusion
The most important thing is to be yourself and be confident in yourself. This makes for an interesting conversation and prevents moments of awkward silence. Don’t be afraid to approach the girl or guy that you have the hots for. Nine times out of ten they will appreciate it.